[4] 3 Things That Need to Stop! NOW!

Slut Shaming

what-men-desire-is-a-virgin-who-is-a-whore-quote-1Here is the deal – Everyone’s personal life is just that personal.

Sex is a part of many people’s lives and has unique characteristics to each individual. Whether sex you is a casual action for pleasure or something you take very seriously or something that you don’t want to engage with at all; you are entitled to your feelings.

The application of this to feminism is the role of sex in our society. There could probably be an entire blog devoted just to this with all the progression and openness surrounding gender and sexuality. But just to scratch the surface, here we go:

When men “score”, they are praised for getting another notch in their belt. When women “sleep with another guy, omg can you even believe it”, they are ridiculed for being so lackadaisical about their body. Women who choose to see sex as a casual and pleasurable experience are seen as sluts, provocative, and having low moral standards. This is simply untrue 99.99% of the time.

It is absolutely possible to be safe, have sex and have fun all at the same time; and to go out at do it again next weekend. It may not be everybody’s cup of tea, but hey, you’re not everybody now are you?

Just because people have a different attitude than you doesn’t mean that they are wrong. Everyone has the choice to life their life their way. Our goal in life is to empower women rather than disempowering them… The last thing we should ever want to do is bring women down and shame them.

Body Shaming

help-not-loosingThis one is just pretty absurd – If you hate the way someone else looks then you probably hate yourself more. So message to haters: LOVE YOURSELF before hating on others! Don’t be a narcissistic asshole either, its really not hard to find a balance.

Social media makes it hard enough for people to love their appearance when each scroll shows you someone with the body you desire. Advertisements, commercials and other marketing ventures always choose to show the most attractive looking men and women in the eyes of society.  This is what leads to unattainable beauty standards and body standards amongst other things.

Heres the deal: If others think they are fine with how they are – DON’T BRING EM DOWN! If you find yourself unhappy with your weight, work toward getting healthy. If you’re already healthy, ignore me!

Health is the most important thing when it comes to your body. You only get one, so treat it right. That being said, if treating it right still leaves you with a body you’re unsatisfied with, work on mental health. Your brain and your body literally go together. Please don’t forget to work toward a healthy mind as well as a healthy body.

Guys- You don’t need to be as buff and handsome as Zac Efron, Chris Hemsworth, Chris Pratt, The Rock, or even Guy Fieri. Whether you have gains or video games, you’re attractive to someone out there and never forget that. (If you have both us ladies like that too).

Ladies – You don’t need to be Jennifer Lopez, Beyonce, Emma Watson, Jennifer Lawrence or Daisy Ridley. You are GORGEOUS AND FLAMING as you are! Love yourself and everything will fall into place.

So in short – No one is perfect. Life is better once you’ve accepted that and can continue to make self deprecating jokes anyways.

If you really want to know the meaning of body positivity, go here: http://www.thebodypositive.org/


Food Shaming


“You’re going to eat THAT?”      “Do you have any idea how much sugar is in that?”

“I thought you ate healthy?”     “You should really save some of that for tomorrow.”

There is no such thing as a “one size fits all” diet. So you can shove your sugar-free, gluten-free, salt-free, TASTE-free diets up your blender! The point is, not every diet is going to work for everyone. However, some diets work for a whole lot of people. Regardless of your goals, a healthy and happy body should always be one of them.

The biggest culprits of food shaming may not even know what they are doing is wrong. On the flip side, there are a lot of nicer ways you can tell me “Alyssa you eat way too much bread”. It seems ridiculous to be so concerned with someone to the point where you comment on the food they decide to eat. { insert Mariah Carey’s 2009 hit, Obsessed }

Every one eats differently, whether it be because they have a sweet tooth, or for health reasons – there is no one “perfect diet” to stay or get pin thin.

Hearing a comment like “Do you know how many calories are in that?!”, can make someone feel bad for what they’re eating, and prevent them from fully enjoying it. By making comments about what others eat, “that concern with other’s weight can lead to a virtual collapse of self-esteem and sense of effectiveness.” [The Beauty Myth]food-shaming

We let what others say and thing make us feel bad for enjoying not only ice cream, candies, and desserts- but feel bad for just eating as a whole. We care about how many calories we eat and count them as if one calorie is one step closer to death. Why do let a number determine how good or bad we are? We are letting society’s ideals and fixation on our images determine how we should act, look, and live.

Honestly that doesn’t sounds like any way to live to me….

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